Since doing the course I have become much calmer, I have more understanding. I do less talking and more listening. I have become stronger. With the kids, I feel I have become more positive. Things that would irritate me before, I now get over it. I am taking time to sit with the child and get to the bottom of it.
If I had this training many years ago, some of the placements I had, I would have kept them. Rather than saying I can't be bothered, I would have worked with it.
Since doing this course, my placement, any placement I should get, these kids are staying with me. Because now, I have ways of dealing with a situation.
As a new Foster Carer coming on this course has opened my eyes. I will spend more time with the children that come into my house. I will listen and take time for myself.
I am now well equipped with the tools and I am ready for the challenges. I don't think everything is just going to go smoothly, you have to try over and over to see the changes. I am seeing changes already.
My young person now listens to advice and instructions, she now maintains a curfew, her attitude has changed and even her appearance has improved.
I was on a downward spiral. The course has reinforced to praise and to continue to praise. I have learnt that you get so much more out of children if you don't constantly question them.
Things change, placements change, but I will take the skills I have learnt with me.
I listen more. Instead of giving orders, I ask, I use I messages and they are working.
For me, being here has made me more hopeful. I have seen changes in myself.
I have seen changes in my child. Before the course it was as if she didn't know what no means. All of a sudden it is as if she does understand. I have learnt how to deal with her. I have learnt how to talk to her, I have realised she is a person.
I have become more patient. Things that used to get on top of me don't now. Instead of focusing on the negative I look at the positive. Yes, this course is brilliant.
Fostering Changes Training Centre
Institute of Psychiatry, Kings College London
PO Box 86 Decrespigny Park
London, SE5 8AF
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